The woman that I interviewed is an African American 28 year old. She is currently working on her masters’ and plans to someday get her doctorate as well. She has a nice little job at a hospital as a technician. She is also currently single. The woman explained to me that she is not thinking about children right now because she wants to finish all her school work, find a suitable partner and then start a family.
As the interview went on I expected her to say that she was glad that she had not had any children yet, but this changed course quick. She was telling me about an event that took place at her job. She was doing her everyday work and suddenly felt extremely tired and fatigue. As she stood up to go to the bathroom she realized that she was bleeding excessively from her pelvic area. As you can imagine she was quite alarmed a started for the restroom. The next thing she knew she woke up in the hospital. Her family was there and they started explaining what happened. Without her knowledge she had endometriosis. For those of you who do not know endometriosis is a common cause of infertility and causes tremendous pain in the pelvic area. Normally a woman with this disorder would have pain prior to the infertility but she never experienced the pain. Her family then told her that they had to do an emergency hysterectomy. She was sad and angry that her choice to have children was no longer an option.
I felt bad for this woman. She explained that sometimes she felt it was her own fault because she didn’t take advantage and the opportunity to have children. There wasn’t any way for her to know that this would happen to her. She wishes that she had children now and is not sure about adoption. She wants to be able to have kids from her own flesh and blood. I think every woman should consider the possibility of having children but at the same time understand that bearing a child is not ideal for everyone.
3 comments:
That is so sad. Having had children of my own, I can't even imagine. I have a family member who has the same issue. I don't really know what she thinks about it. She never really talks about it. I think it is such a sensitive area that we need to be very conscientious about what we say to people. We never know who else might be in the same situation.
Your blog presented a very interesting story about fertility and the unknown. I sympathize with the lady but have great admiration of how she felt comfortable to illustrate this sensitive story. The interview exposes the fact that we all might not be destined to wait for long before having children. The fact that a lot of women put off children to advance in careers or finish school may have an adverse effect on when women actually decide to start a family. I personally think all women should seek medical advice from physicians as they can better advice us how healthy our bodies are and if waiting is a choice for us.
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